While re-listening to one of the training seminars, I noticed a cool and important idea that I can’t help but share. So, let’s say you have a goal that is really desirable for you. This goal involves more than one day of effort. It turns out that achieving the goal consists of two components: motivation and discipline. As for motivation, it is absolutely necessary, without it you will not do anything. And if the goal is really desirable for you, then you have motivation.
But discipline is more difficult. Achieving a more or less significant goal (gaining material well-being, self-realization, weight loss, after all) involves daily routine efforts. And, if at first, you, inspired and motivated, happily do everything that is necessary, the further you go, the more acute the issue of discipline becomes. Procrastination may also appear at this stage, precisely as a consequence of lack of discipline. And here we even want to ask an interesting question: what is more important to achieve the goal – motivation or discipline? Think about it.
You know, there are some people who, if something needs to be done, just go ahead and do it. Are you in that category? If so, great! You have no problem with discipline, and congratulations! And what to do if you don’t? There are solutions, of course. If you do not resort to psychotherapy, you can try to use the so-called “simple willed actions”, which I wrote about earlier. And it is possible to solve this problem with the help of psychotherapy. I should mention that the possibilities of psychotherapeutic methods are really wide, and the causes of procrastination can be very individual, and the solution is selected accordingly. However, it is absolutely certain that for any client it is possible to take an appropriate resource (for example, conscientiousness) and “turn it on”. Here I would like to point out that when we use resourcing in therapy, we do not take anything from outside, we use what is in the person, and the person has absolutely everything he or she needs. That is, we simply “turn on” this or that quality or state. And, in addition, it is desirable to adjust the appropriate model of behavior. And, voila, you are already the person who takes and does!